DO NOT USE THE WORD WAIT AND DREAMS IN THE SAME SENTENCE!
How often will people say that they cannot start a business or live out a dream until this or that happens. Life will always show up and give you a million reasons why the timing is off, or one should wait. Will he/she remember what the passion that has been ignited was? The pressure to live under these roles of spouse, parent, career can be overwhelming and take up a lot of space in the mind. People do not often stop and take into account that they should be also making sure time is spent nourishing his or her own soul. Taking care of others is easy. Taking care of oneself is where people fall short. One day the time will come and the kids are older and the relationship with self is strained or unknown. None to hide behind could feel like being picked up and placed somewhere in the middle of nowhere with a stranger.
Brains like to analyze, generalize, and distort this is what it does unapologetically. It is not uncommon to tell the brain this “thing or dream” cannot be done because what if? What if doing something that causes happiness feels selfish? What if taking time for self means the kids or spouse Is being neglected? What if enjoyment comes from doing what his or her purpose is and guilty emotions emerge for being happy?
What if individuals could reframe the what if question and ask what if we are showing the family to value themselves by showing that selfcare is important. What if allowing one to nurture the desire and passion within causes healthier and happier relationships with friends and family. What if this is showing the younger generation to go for the opportunities and not to be afraid of taking chances. Reframing the thoughts will begin to loosen these restraints, which have unintentionally been the reason to remain stagnant for far too long.
When one sees a Life Coach the clients who are ready to take action have the same common theme or desire, which is to live a life of freedom that means the restraints of what is holding them back has been unlocked. Reconnecting to self again and allowing themselves to live a life of purpose all while still being an amazing spouse, parent, and friend. Living a “free” life is going to differ from person to person. One might decide to be an entrepreneur, and another person just wants to learn about vineyards. Whatever sparks the passion! Do not wait to start doing the thing that gets the heart going again.
It is important that as a society young ones are encouraged to be bold, reach for the stars and never discount who they are as a person. It is easy to get caught up in a role, but that should not be what defines them.
WHERE TO START
Running and taking a huge leap of change at this moment is not what this article is about. The takeaway message is not to ignore the person inside or what stokes the passion from within because of playing a role of spouse, parent, and / or having a career. On the other hand, here are some tips that CAN be implemented today and preferably not tomorrow.
1. Journal thoughts of what ignites the excitement.
2. Find books that align with the big vision.
3. Network, find people who are already doing it.
4. Talk about it with friends and family to create the momentum.
Instead of looking for the hero in another person or finding gratification from an external source, the answers are all internal. One needs to be their own advocate to be the best version of themselves.